information, but if you ask for help it’s going to
appear to your boss or colleague that you are not
knowledgeable about the subject matter. So, you
don’t ask and you miss the deadline.
Here is an example of what happens if you just ask:
message that she just started a new business
and was hoping I could join a call to hear more
about what she is doing. You could feel her
excitement in her message. So, here I was
thinking, do I answer her back and say maybe if I
am not working, ignore it, or just ask the question
that was circulating in my mind? You see, I too
had started a business, but had not heard from
her. I put a link to my website on my Facebook
page, I posted and shared emails from my new
Facebook business page, but I didn’t get a like
or a comment or anything from her. So, here is
what I said, “Congratulations to you on your new
busines s. If I am not working on Wednesday, I
will definitely try and be on the call. I too have
just started a business and I know how hard it
could be getting it started. Us entrepreneurs have
to support each other. If you are not too busy,
I would love it if you could like my Faceboook
business page. That would be so great. Wishing
you the best of luck and congratulations again.”
I got a Facebook message from someone I
haven’t spoken to in a while. She shared in her
Instead of thinking, wow she took the time to
come to me to ask for my support, yet she hasn’t
What do all these scenarios have in common? That’s
exactly right, the person that is narrating these
questions has no answers. We don’t ask questions
many times for fear of the answer and reaction from
the other person. Instead, we stress over what the
potential answers could be and make up our internal
version of the story. We then struggle because we
don’t know if it’s true or not. It takes up so much
time thinking this way. I have spent many a day
wondering why someone said something a certain
way to me or why someone didn’t offer to help if
they saw me struggling. So, why not ask in a nice
professional or sincere way. It’s not about making it
an interrogation, it’s more exploratory.
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