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because we need to teach our children that our relationships are more important than things like work, movies and sports. We do a very poor job of this in our society." Make Sure Your Children See Your Love for Each Other Parents spend 18 to 20 years preparing their children to leave home, and parenting requires sacrifices to properly care for children. But investments in a long-term relationship as a couple can benefit parents and kids alike, and make the "empty nest" seem not quite so empty after the children leave home. Start Today It's never too late to rekindle love and romance in a stale long-term relationship, Billingham says. Start from where you are, and begin doing things together that emphasize and celebrate your relationship as a couple. "If the kids don't see an emphasis on the relationship, what we model is that the marriage isn't as important as work, sports or other activities, Billingham says. “When they do see the emphasis, what we're modeling is that the marriage, the committed relationship is important. Should You Quit or Recommit? Obviously, rekindling romance is much more difficult if one of the partners has fallen in love with someone else and is experiencing a new surge of attraction hormones that is pulling them away from their core relationship. “[Emphasizing the long-term relationship] is crucial 70