passion that brought you
together in the first place.
Fixating on the negatives
wouldn't have worked in the
beginning and it doesn't work
now. "In marriage, it's easy to
freeze your partner into a
fixed perception. Get out of
that," says Sherrie Campbell,
PhD. She is a marriage and
family therapist in Yorba
Linda, Calif.
Focus on the positive.
Make a list of what you fell
in love with and another list
of good things you've
discovered over time.
"Publicly brag about those
amazing qualities your
partner has," Campbell says.
"Refrain from making him
the brunt of a joke. Embrace
his positive qualities and let
him know you've fully got his
back."
Remember those fabulous
qualities you noticed in your
partner when you started
dating? Time and stress may
have brought their lessfavorable traits into sharper
focus, says psychologist
Elizabeth R. Lombardo, PhD.
But their good qualities are
probably still there.
Do something crazy (or
new).
One study found that couples
who did novel and arousing
things together felt better
about their relationships than
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