STEP 1
Speak with your partner concerning
the dishonesty in the relationship. If it
is because of new information
surfacing, such as an affair or hidden
debt, ask her to tell you the details and
reasons she felt she must hide it. In
return, if you were the one with the
dishonest action, come clean about
the details yourself.
STEP 2
Ask your partner about his intentions
or motives of the dishonest act and
allow him to tell you the reasons he
did it. In return, tell him how his
dishonesty has made you feel and any
trust issues that might have arisen
because of it.
STEP 3
Explain to your partner how the
dishonesty is coming between the two
of you and affecting your relationship.
Point out specific occasions when the
dishonesty bothers you most, such as
occasions she does not answer her
phone and you wonder if she is she is
somewhere she shouldn't be.
STEP 4
Ask your partner to create an oath
with you to eliminate dishonesty from
the relationship. Promise to keep the
oath with your partner yourself, and
that you will approach each other
when dishonesty occurs.
STEP 5
Educate your partner on the
consequences of further dishonesty in
the relationship. Let him know how it
will affect the relationship and lead to
a breaking point or potential parting
of ways.
STEP 6
Allow yourself to open up to the idea
of trusting your partner once more.
While it can take time, dedication and
patience, you cannot deal with the
previously dishonesty until you can
move past it.
STEP 7
Spend quality time together to nurture
your relationship. Seek out activities
that both of you will enjoy and that
will allow you to grow closer
together. You might join a gym, take
dance classes or attend a beginning
painters' class together.
STEP 8
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