Scotia, Canada
I tried anal sex seven years ago with a former
boyfriend. It was a spur of the moment
decision, no lube, no nothing. He got inside me
gradually, uncomfortably... and then I asked
him to get out. There was nothing pleasurable
about it. After that, I had two more boyfriends
who were very interested in anal penetration
and stimulation. I let one boyfriend stimulate
my rosebud, but found nothing pleasurable
from it, in fact, all I could think of was "there's
a finger up my ass!" And again, this was with
no lube. I refused to engage in any anal
stimulation with these other two partners,
giving or receiving.
That all has changed with my current lover and
partner. I feel a deep connection with him,
which has allowed me to let go of my
inhibitions and trust him and the situation. Most
importantly, before we ever tried anal sex, my
partner communicated his desires to me, desires
he'd had for a long time but had told nobody.
He felt safe enough to talk to me about them
because I had been so open in talking with him
about sex, sexuality, and sexual desire. He told
me about all the research he had done on the
topic- for example, use tons of lube (if you
think you have enough, use even more!) and
that the woman needed to be in total control of
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