can feel good. How do you work your way up to a penis?
Slowly. Once the opening is happy to play with, it’s time to go
in past one knuckle or the tip of the Small Ripple. Don’t
forget that patience will reward you in the end. (‘In the end’,
get it? Ha...). Gradually work your way up to multiple fingers,
or a slightly larger toy (but smaller than the intended penis),
and then the butt should be ready for more. Going for gold
right away will push your sphincter muscles faster than you
want to, and pain (or injury!) can result.
A good anal play session for me results in a slew of toys and a
few gloves used before the penis gets to play.
9.
Did we remember the LUBE? I hope you’re getting the
point by now that using lube is THE essential thing to learn
about having anal sex. Once you’ve started warming up the
butt, it’s not a bad idea to add more lube, and as far in as you
can reach, just in case.
10. Dealing with the aftermath: Depending on how well you
worked your butt up to anal play, the time till your butt is back
to “normal” should be short. If you have any type of
adjustment period (things are looser than they, um hem,
should be... for an hour or more), then you probably didn’t go
slow enough, or warm up enough. Pay attention to your body,
and take note for next time what it needs. I asked porn star
(and anal sex lover) Chloe Joneswhether she worries that anal
play will stretch her out, she adamantly said no. “The ass
works like any other set of muscles,” she said. “The more you
work them out, the tighter they get.”
JOY FEELINGS