guilt-tripped into complying.” She says that her husband can
play with her but whenever he wants, but he can't fuck it till IT
wants. “It's his job to get my butt to want his dick. It's my job
to relax and let him pleasure my ass till it's desperate for him.”
What does that mean? “Our butts are moody,” says Nina.
There may be some days it just doesn't want to be played with.
Be aware of this and be willing to back off if your (or your
partner's) butt isn't cooperating... there's nothing that will shut
down wanting/getting your partner to want anal sex faster than
pushing when the butt's not ready.
Also, be aware of your anatomy, and work with it, not against
it. The above drawing fromTodd Perkin's Anal Play
site illustrates how the butt curves (towards the G-spot in
women, and P-spot or prostate in men, yeah!), which can
cause pain if you don't work with it's curves and angle so you
can go in comfortably.
7.
Lube: Yes, lube, AGAIN. I'm bringing
it up again to remind you to make sure
that all the bits you're touching stay lubed
throughout your play. Use gloved fingers
to push lube up inside the ass (because
having just the first few inches of your
anal canal lubed isn't enough). We just
started carrying the Lube Shooter, a
disposable device that can help you get lube further up inside
you, if you need help.
8.
Our eyes are bigger than our orifices: So you’ve warmed
your butt up... it’s agreed that having something (small!) in it
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