JOY FEELINGS MAGAZINE OCTOBER.2015 | Page 28

guilt-tripped into complying.” She says that her husband can play with her but whenever he wants, but he can't fuck it till IT wants. “It's his job to get my butt to want his dick. It's my job to relax and let him pleasure my ass till it's desperate for him.” What does that mean? “Our butts are moody,” says Nina. There may be some days it just doesn't want to be played with. Be aware of this and be willing to back off if your (or your partner's) butt isn't cooperating... there's nothing that will shut down wanting/getting your partner to want anal sex faster than pushing when the butt's not ready. Also, be aware of your anatomy, and work with it, not against it. The above drawing fromTodd Perkin's Anal Play site illustrates how the butt curves (towards the G-spot in women, and P-spot or prostate in men, yeah!), which can cause pain if you don't work with it's curves and angle so you can go in comfortably. 7. Lube: Yes, lube, AGAIN. I'm bringing it up again to remind you to make sure that all the bits you're touching stay lubed throughout your play. Use gloved fingers to push lube up inside the ass (because having just the first few inches of your anal canal lubed isn't enough). We just started carrying the Lube Shooter, a disposable device that can help you get lube further up inside you, if you need help. 8. Our eyes are bigger than our orifices: So you’ve warmed your butt up... it’s agreed that having something (small!) in it JOY FEELINGS