you'd like to be. Shit happens.. Be aware that every once in a
while, things might not be as clean as you want them to be,
and understand that it happens to everyone, and is completely
normal. Think of it as “used food” (Todd Perkin's words), or
as a fact of life like menstruation; “you just need to respect it
and work around it,” Todd advises. Just laugh about it and
hop in the shower, and be done with it... beating yourself up
over something that is a normal occurrence doesn't help!
3.
Lube: Are you remembering the lube? I bring it up again
already because it's that important. The inner walls of our butts
are fragile, and without the slippery stuff lube brings to the
table, you can give yourself micro-tears that make you more
susceptible to STDs and other butt injuries.
4.
You have to seduce your ass every time: That’s a direct
quote from my favorite sex educator and porn star (and
friend) Nina Hartley. And yes, you have to seduce your ass
every single time. I first massage the opening with the pad of
my lubed finger (even better with latex gloves on them, easy
clean up and no worries about nails!), till the opening relaxes.
Promise your partner you won't go inside (even if playing with
the opening is as far as you get this session), and stick to your
promises... if your partner thinks you're going further than
they are ready for, they'll tense up and
you won't get anywhere.
Once you feel the opening relax, you can
slip the first digit of your finger in, or
the tip of a small toy. I love the Small
Ripple, it’s silicone (which means it's
boilable, bleachable, and dishwasher
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