JOY FEELINGS MAGAZINE November issue 2015 | Page 70

to steer away from the moment
and head straight into a ‘future’
mentality.
I know because I’ve been there,
and so have a ton of other
woman I know personally.
The thing is, if you’re obsessing
over when he’s going to propose
marriage, or when he’s going to
suggest that the two of you move
in together (and as each day goes
by that he doesn’t, you’re getting
‘fed up’ with this amazing guy),
you’re moving away from a
deeper connection, and also into
the dangerous ‘lost zone’.
The ‘lost zone’ is when you’re
thinking so much about your
future with this one, special,
amazing guy that you stop asking
the right questions to yourself.
In the ‘lost zone’, you stop
asking yourself what you want,
and if the guy you’re with is the
guy truly right for you.
So, if you’re solely focused on
the thought, “When is he going
to put a ring on it? Why hasn’t he
asked me to marry him yet?”
stop. Rewind, and recharge that
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self-empowerment battery that
you need to ask yourself what
you want.
What do you need? What makes
you happiest? Then, start
focusing on enjoying the
moment—every moment that
you, as a couple have, and enjoy
the good stuff along the way.
Strengthen your bond through
activity (and I’m not solely
talking about sex here). What’s
really important aren’t those
‘promises’ of proposal, or
meeting his parents, or hitting
relationship milestone after
relationship milestone.
It’s learning and growing
together as a couple through
events and activities—taking a
class together, training for an
upcoming marathon, or taking a
trip to a nearby city or town.
None of these things cost much,
and they can easily help you
connect and enjoy the amazing
guy you’re with (which can
easily be forgotten when you’re
obsessing over the future!