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2. Establish crystal-clear
expectations. Couples want to
make sure that they’re on the
same page when it comes to their
relationship, especially since
distance can lead to many mixups. “These can be difficult and
awkward questions to ask, but
will save you great heartache and
misunderstanding down the line,”
Orbuch said. Get clear on
things, like how often you’ll
communicate each day and how
and when you’ll visit each other.
3. Have an end goal. Orbuch
strongly suggested couples talk
about the future of their
relationship and “when you’ll
move back together again.” As
she explained, this shows to both
people that the “relationship is
going somewhere” and your
efforts are worthwhile. It helps to
agree on a timeframe, but Orbuch
said that at least trying to create
one is a good start. And “be
realistic in your assessment of
this relationship timetable,” she
added.
don’t enjoy talking on the phone;
some find texting irritating; and
others can’t stand technology in
general. But keeping that
emotional connection is key,
Orbuch said. Of course, you
don’t have to have long, heart-toheart talks every time. Orbuch
suggested the following: “Telling
each other about your little
triumphs and tragedies, asking
for advice and talking about your
day.” Use your preferred mode of
communication, whether that’s
talking or texting on your phone,
email or video chats.
And don’t forget about oldschool approaches. “Also
sending letters, notes and
greeting cards are wonderful
ways to surprise each other!”
Orbuch said. Flowers and small
gifts are great, too, she added.
LESSONS IN LONGDISTANCE LOVE
4. Communicate every
day. Let’s face it: Many partners
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