level of his staying power
until you hit some rough
patches. If he's not ready, he
won't be able to handle the
negative aspects of a
relationship, and he'll either
shut down — and shut you
out — or bail. A man who is
truly ready to bond will be
willing to work with you to
try to resolve whatever
problems the two of you are
having.
This doesn't mean that he'll
never experience any doubts
or even think about leaving.
But at the end of the day,
he'll realize that his
relationship is a top priority
and whatever discomfort he
might have to endure to work
out the kinks is worth it. It's a
trade-off he's willing to
make.
COMMITMENT FACTOR
#4
He's Sure He Can Be the
Man
Even though stereotypical
gender roles have loosened
up and many men are no
longer required to be the
breadwinners, a lot of guys
still worry, deep down, that
they should be...and a lot of
women still expect it. So if a
guy feels that he can't live up
to his — or his partner's —
expectations, he might put off
getting seriously involved to
avoid feeling like he's not
capable. It's a way for him to
protect his ego.
According to the National
Marriage Project, 47 percent
of men agree that they
wouldn't want to get married
until they could afford to own
a home, and 40 percent
would want to be able to
afford a nice wedding.
But it's not just the money —
or lack thereof — that will
cause a guy to shy away from
commitment. If a guy is
putting all of his time and
energy into pursuing a goal,