Don't start putting the
pressure on before he's
ready -- or close to it. If
you've only been with your
boyfriend for a few months,
or have been together longer
than that but things aren't
really serious between you if
you have to be honest, then
you shouldn't start pressuring
him to marry you if he's
beyond not ready. Doing this
too early in the relationship,
especially way too early, can
end the relationship quicker
than you can say, "I do."
Just because all of your
friends are getting ready
or you can't wait to try
on a wedding dress
doesn't mean that you
should talk about your
wedding from your
second date -- or there
won't be a third.
Don't be desperate. Many
magazines may give you the
wrong message, making you
think that if you want your
man to fall in love with you,
all you have to do is cook a
five-course meal in a pair of
hot high heels, stay up light
to pick him up when he's on a
bender with his buddies, or to
generally be at his beck and
call so he can see what an
"amazing" girlfriend you are.
This will not make him
upgrade you to wife
status. Men are much
more interested in
women who are
confident and
independent than
women who serve their
every need and will drop
everything just to
pamper and feed them -especially if they're only
doing it because they
think it'll make him
more likely to propose.
Don't let your
conversations about this
topic turn into threats to
leave. You want a