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 vaginismus  vulvodynia It’s very important to get help for painful intercourse as soon as possible. If not, fear of pain may lead you to clench up during sex. This can make sex even more painful. It can be a vicious cycle. Painful sex can be treated in a variety of ways, depending on the cause. When you talk to your doctor about your problem, be prepared to discuss if you have pain:  during penetration  when touched on the outside of your vulva  because your vagina is clenching uncontrollably  during deep penetration The details are important. They can help your doctor diagnose underlying problems that may be causing your pain. Problems with Orgasm Problems with orgasm are often the easiest type of sexual dysfunction to treat. Many women who can’t orgasm simply aren’t getting the right type of stimulation during sex. There is a common misconception that women should be able to orgasm from vaginal intercourse. However, the majority of women need direct clitoral stimulation to climax. If you have difficulty reaching orgasm, you may benefit from seeing a sex therapist. A sex therapist can help you learn how to have an orgasm. Educational books and videos are also available to help you find your orgasm. Part 5 of 6: Family Planning Choose When (and If) to Have Children If you are a woman who has sex with men, it’s important to know your options for JOY FEELINGS | DECEMBER ISSUE 213