Jasmine's Place Issue No. 6 - July/August 2013 | Page 23

When I was pregnant with my third son, I experienced a catastrophic breakdown and severe identity crisis. My husband and I were not expecting any more children and were being responsible adults, but God clearly had another plan! Being pregnant a third time with two children both under the age of 4, was an enormous trial and I remember standing by the kitchen sink crying and complaining to God, letting him know unequivocally that this was by far one of the worst things that could happen to me right now and that I could not do this. God in His loving kindness reassured me that day that things could be much worse and through Him, I could do all things. If you pay close attention to your daily conversations, you may find that you often say the words “I can’t do this,” and even if you don’t verbalise it, when circumstances and challenges arise that are overwhelming and beyond our control, we often communicate these words subconsciously by default. As a mother of five, I often have to remind my children that they can do whatever they put their minds to and are prepared to work at, especially when they are trying to get out of something they know how to do, like homework! Most of us have been programmed to think, speak and act negatively as an initial response. If you listen to those around you and even the conversations you have on a daily basis, you will notice that people are quick to criticise, condemn and complain, rather than compliment, commend and congratulate. Most people can easily point out what is wrong or went wrong but find it much more of a challenge to highlight what went well. This destructive mentality is often the result of things we have experienced in our past. We think we can’t simply because someone (or some experience) told us we can’t. We think we are unattractive because someone (or some experience) told us we were unattractive. We think we are a failure because someone (or some experience) told us we were a failure. We tell ourselves, “I can’t ask for a promotion”, “I can’t lose weight”, “I can’t start a business”, “I can’t forgive”, “I can’t forget”, the list of things we can’t do for many goes on and on. I have a question for you - Who told you that you can’t? The Bible says I can do all things through Christ that strengthens me. JASMINE'S PLACE 23