January 2018 Issue #13 Issue #13 Jan 2018 4Guys | Page 27
1. The sex was all right, but it was with the wrong guy
In this instance, there was nothing wrong with the physical acts involved and
whatever else felt technically OK. But there was something about the guy or the
situation that made it really not work for you.
Maybe one of you was hoping for a friendly encounter (or more) and the other
one was brutally frank that this was just about getting off, thank you very much. If
you reserve sex for someone you love and you do it with someone you find you
don’t even like all that much, your body may be happy, but your heart won’t be.
If you’re single and looking for love, sport-sex can leave your emotions raw and
take a toll on your self-esteem.
If you leave feeling wounded or feeling like you’ve wounded the other guy, the
sex was bad, no matter how much of a hunk your partner might have been.
Other situations that make it not work: you’re cheating on your lover and you feel
guilty afterwards. Or you and your sex partner match up in terms of availabili-
ty, but the guy is thoughtless or rude in a way that leaves you feeling bad about
yourself afterwards. Or maybe you just have no interest in the guy and realize
you weren’t really horny – you were just avoiding some chore like paying the bills
at home. A good rule of thumb is to save sex for when you’re horny or wanting
intimate connection with another person – not when you’re just bored.