A GAY GUIDE TO LOVE & SEX
SEX AND RELATIONSHIPS makes us enter cautiously .
Not everyone is the same . There are countless of men who refuse to have a wall , that thrive on deep emotional connections and love to be vulnerable in relationships . But when they ’ re dealing with others who aren ’ t it can be difficult not to cave into their ideals .
WHY HAS SEX BECOME CURRENCY ?
We ’ re valued at how f * ckable we are . We ’ ve taken the straight male POV towards women and turned it on ourselves . In a way we ’ ve become the victim of our own success . When a guy flirts with us , the breaking factor that decides whether it ’ s creepy or not isn ’ t his strategy , but how attractive we think he is .
The more attractive people we have around us , the more attractive we feel . Men are pack people — we haven ’ t changed for thousands of years . We feel more important when we ’ re associated with stronger groups , and since we ’ ve placed such value in looks , hot friends are naturally viewed as “ stronger .”
WHY ARE WE SCARED TO ADMIT OUR FLAWS ?
We keep forgetting that all human beings are flawed , so for us to pretend like we aren ’ t is a façade — and everyone knows it . The truth is we feel so much more connected with people who let their wall down , that reveal their flaws in ways we relate to , because it reminds us we ’ re not alone .
We ’ ve become accustomed to gaining esteem by making someone else feel less than , which inspires us to pretend like everything is fine — I ’ m not
sad result from this toxic cognitive dissonance is an extreme divide not only in logic , but with people . They ’ ll feel intimidated to be around us so they slowly distance themselves until we discover the only person willing to hear our story is our mother .
LOVE & SEX ARE MEANT TO BE MUTUALLY INCLUSIVE .
The circuits in our brain for love and sex feed off each other , which is why it ’ s easy to create the habit of meaningless sex or love without intimacy should you try . But we ’ re always at our most content when one is an expression of the other because it ’ s how it was meant to be .
When sex is an expression of love then love not only becomes more valuable , but sex means something so much more . It turns into something you forgot it was : personal , intimate , precious — all the things we want it to be .
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