A GAY GUYS GUIDE TO LOVE & SEX
SEX AND RELATIONSHIPS
A GAY GUYS GUIDE TO LOVE & SEX
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once heard that sex is a reflection of the kind of love you share with your man — sloppy , intimate , or cautious , it all stems from that vessel . But in modern times sex seems to have nothing to do with love . On the contrary , it supports an idea that love can exist separately .
I have no issue with casual sex or FWBs or drunk hookups . Sometimes you need someone to unleash your urges on with no worry of attachment , but this type of etiquette needs to stay where it belongs : to the guys you know aren ’ t worth it .
WHY ARE WE SO SCARED TO CONNECT THE TWO ?
We fall in love but are extremely nervous to have sex because we ’ re worried it might change things ; we also have a lot of sex with the same guy but refuse to get to know him because we might fall in love with him . We ’ re comfortable with either or , but never together .
WHY CAN ’ T WE BREAK DOWN THE WALL THAT DIVIDES LOVE AND SEX ?
The trouble with gay dating today is that we ’ ve grown accustomed to the structure of sex without love . Most guys are able to wean themselves out of it but sadly many forget how . 52
If you ask me it ’ s because we don ’ t know how to let go of preconceptions and allow comfort to settle in . Our habits , whether administered by us or by others , has seeped into our culture , which
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