Why are we scared to admit our flaws?
We keep forgetting that all human beings are
flawed, so for us to pretend like we aren’t is a
façade—and everyone knows it. The truth is
we feel so much more connected with people
who let their wall down, that reveal their flaws in
ways we relate to, because it reminds us we’re
not alone.
We’ve become accustomed to gaining esteem
by making someone else feel less than, which
inspires us to pretend like everything is fine—
I’m not sad, I’m not insecure, I haven’t had any
trouble. A sad result from this toxic cognitive
dissonance is an extreme divide not only in log-
ic, but with people. They’ll feel intimidated to be
around us so they slowly distance them
54
selves until we discover the only person willing
to hear our story is our mother.
Love & Sex are meant to be mutually inclu-
sive.
The circuits in our brain for love and sex feed off
each other, which is why it’s easy to create the
habit of meaningless sex or love without intima-
cy sho