Invenio: Coaching and Mentoring May 2016 IIC&M - Page 29

Wow, where do you start with the subject of celebrating coaching? It truly is the most incredible tool in helping people create shifts and change.

Like anything in life though, when something’s new we can be very childlike where we ‘ooh’ and ‘ahh’ about it. Maybe it’s the latest piece of technology, perhaps it’s clothes, a car, or if you’re like me the next new book that’s come out. Over time your shiny object syndrome starts to wear off and the thing that was super exciting when you first got it can start to lose its sparkle.

In this article, I’m going to take you back in time and then share some ways in how you can celebrate coaching, celebrate you and celebrate your clients.


I want to take you back to the time when you first trained as a coach. If you’re a new coach now, either just starting out on your training or recently trained, then you’ll still have that wonderment. Hold onto that, note down some of your observations, how it feels to have a whole new world opening up to you.

So, back to your training. You learn lots of new tools and techniques; you learn about how you can help your clients to break through limiting beliefs and start to move forward with their lives. You’re on a hunt for the best coaching model, the golden question that is going to help your clients creative those massive breakthroughs, and you’re absorbing every single thing there is to know about coaching. You have a voracious appetite for learning the next thing and the next, and can’t wait to get out there and practice on ‘real’ clients.

Keep reminding yourself of how wonderful the world seemed when you first started out

as a coach. Remember the wealth of possibilities that stretched out in front of you as you explored a way to move people towards better lives. The excitement around the numbers of people you might be able to help as a result of this new, almost magical, thing that you’ve learned.

How did you feel when you first learned coaching?

I remember thinking to myself how mad it is that we ‘don’t teach this stuff’ in schools. Imagine a world where teenagers are taught all about self-coaching techniques, affirmations, empowered to be the best they can be. I hear stories from my daughter’s school where a teacher has said something that might be just an inane sentence to them, but I listen to the power of those words, and wonder if those teenagers will need coaching further down the line!

Limiting beliefs are set so early on in life, it’s no wonder we all have so many things we need to overcome (or is that just me?!)

I remember when I worked in HR how I had to have all of the answers. I was dealing with employment legislation on a daily basis, and people would come to me asking advice around difficult employee situations, redundancy, recruitment etc. It was liberating for me to know that as a coach I didn’t need the answers, just the questions. I’m the Queen of collecting questions now! I love testing out new questions with my clients to help them unlock answers and get unstuck.

We don’t need to be counselors, we don’t need to have all of the answers, we just need to hold the space for our clients, to listen and make them feel heard, to help them look at their

problem from a different perspective and help them to reframe things.

the space for our clients, to listen and make them feel heard, to help them look at their

problem from a different perspective and help them to reframe things.



by Ruby McGuire APC