Invenio: Coaching and Mentoring March 2016 - Page 53

Lukas van Wyk has a BA Hons (Psychology)degree. He is a Motivational Speaker as “A person Living with, and Outshining HIV” as well as a Consultant in the Health and Wellness arena and the Owner of The Wellness Worx Development.

The the positivity of my parents that I will recover, taught positivity and which helped me to deal with my situation and potential similar situations in future.

The second setback was in 1986, at the age of 30 when I was diagnosed with AIDS.

Being diagnosed with AIDS back then was a death sentence The medical fraternity was not aware that HIV was the cause of AIDS. Infected people were stigmatized and discriminated against. They died in the most unimaginable humiliating way within 5 to 10 years of diagnoses because HIV multiplies in the body resulting in an increase in viral load and a decrease in CD4 count. Today HIV is classified as a chronic illness/disease treated with anti-retroviral (ARV’s) medication.

I have a very strong and positive mind and an extraordinarily passion for life which is, at the lack of a better expression, my survival mechanisms.

I started taking ARV’s 18 years after being diagnosed with AIDS (HIV) in 1986. I believe that my positive mindset, my healthy diet and the emotional support I got from everyone in my life, kept me alive.

It was a friend who asked me to do my first motivational talk at his workplace that made me realize that there I can make a difference to the lives of people and that feeling of positivity it brought about, is priceless. I had a platform to use to share and teach other people and to make a difference to the lives of many.

I started my own business, “Wellness Worx”, and designed a Champions of Wellness Development Program” to develop employees in organizations as Champions of Wellness, Champions of Life, Champions of Change and a Champion Buddy.

The third setback was in March 2012 at age 56, when I was hospitalized due to ill health and spent the next two years in and out of hospital.

During that time I suffered a heart attack and two major brain seizures, fell and broke the femur in my right leg, fractured my vertebra due to osteoporosis that I did not even know of, and had a mitral valve replacement as a result of infective endocarditis. I left the hospital in a wheel chair, crutches and a walker.

The following are some of the lessons I have learnt from setbacks and failures.

- Setbacks and failures are part of life.

- If allowed to become the focus of your life and take control of it, they will limit you. Be aware of it and avoid it.

- Never forget the big picture. Setbacks and failures only slow you down, they do not end your life.

- They mould and prepare you for life - learn from them and deal with them.

- Setbacks and failures are challenges in disguise and can be turned into opportunities and a platforms for success.

- Do your best to avoid experiencing the same setback or failure.

I will be 60 years old this month and having written this article, I trust that it’s contents will change someone’s life somewhere with positivity and made them realize that it is OK to have setbacks and failures but always remember the the big picture.