Invenio: Coaching and Mentoring January 2016 - Page 39



by Nicci Robertson

The tradition of the New Year's Resolution goes way back to 153 B.C. Janus, a mythical king of early Rome was placed at the head of the calendar.

With his two faces, Janus could look back on past events and forward to the future. Janus became the ancient symbol for resolutions and many Romans looked for forgiveness from their enemies and also exchanged gifts before the beginning of each year.

The celebration of the New Year is the oldest of all rituals regardless of culture or religious preference. It was first observed in ancient Babylon around 4000 years ago. In the collective consciousness a new year represents a new beginning and a chance to start over, which may explain why losing weight or getting fit has always ranked in the the top three resolutions year in and year out.

It may also explain why the gyms are so busy come mid January and start to dwindle by the end of February.

So, if a resolution is a commitment to ones’ self that is generally interpreted as advantageous. Why are resolutions typically a promise that we know we will break before Easter?

Most of us know how changeling it is to change patters, beliefs and behavior, none more so that those relating to nutrition and exercise.

Somehow making health a resolution, we are setting ourselves up for failure in that a resolution is a promise that was made to be broken.

Changing our attitudes towards health calls for a complete overhaul of what we do on a daily basis. It may involve getting out of bed in the wee ours of the morning to go to gym. It will certainly mean foregoing that after work drink. It will undoubtedly call for planing and preparation.

2012 was the year the Mayans predicted the end of the world as we know it, so when you think of then why not now think of a New Years’ Reinvention rather than a resolution?

Resolutions don’t work because they aren’t formalised. The commitment to reinvent ones’ self takes far more project management. And like any project one needs a plan in order to succeed with all of the typical markers along the way.

Before proceeding along this line, ask yourself these questions. It will make the process a whole lot more focussed and will keep you accountable to your goals.

‘What do I want?’ not ‘What do I not want, or want to avoid?’

Losing weight or giving up smoking are negative outcomes, which may explain why they are hard to achieve. Therefore by asking: ‘What do I want instead and ‘What will this do for me?’ will turn a negative into a positive outcome?

How will you know you are succeeding?

It is important to know you are on track. You need feedback and it needs to be accurate. How you will measure the progress? How will I know that you are on course towards your outcome? What are you going to measure? Working with a personal trainer and a nutritionist or wellness coach is one sure way of getting consistent, accurate feedback. With professional, reputable help you will be able to tweak and adjust your strategy to fit your situation along the way. One way to ensure failure is to be inflexible so adjustment is crucial to the process.

What, when and why?

What specifically do I want?

When specifically do I want this?

is it to me?