Invenio: Coaching and Mentoring January 2016 - Page 15

In 2016 Create Solutions instead of Resolutions

We tend to assume that life will give us another chance tomorrow at whatever came up yesterday and today. But if we really pay attention, we see that no single day is like another. Every morning brings a hidden blessing that serves only for that day and cannot be saved or used again. If we don’t use today’s gift, it will be lost.

Paulo Coelho

Prior Preparation Prevents Poor Performance are the 5 P’s that fundamentally underpin successful goal setting. However, they are characteristically lacking when most of us reveal our New Year Resolutions.

Peak Performers, who are naturally ‘doers’, don’t talk about New Year Resolutions, they plan New Year Solutions and consistently achieve their goals. Not because they expect to achieve their goals, (though that does play an important role in their success (enhanced through visualisation) but because Peak Performers adopt and embrace the essential principles behind the 5 P’s.

For some people, this time of year is an opportunity to reminisce over previous years resolutions and wonder in amazement why their dreams remain unfulfilled. For the minority though, it’s a time of excitement, a time to re-evaluate, plan and a time to rejoice over what’s already been accomplished.

As you reflect on the forthcoming annual ritual of declaring New Year Resolutions, ask yourself:

what actions or changes are you going to make to ensure your experiences are different and that history doesn’t repeat itself?

itself?

what characteristic or habit do you want to alter that would improve your life be it your finances or career; your emotional or physical health; or maybe your communication and relationships?

Remember, you will only achieve goals you set yourself. This is because a change imposed is a change opposed – ignore all goals that begin with ‘I should’ – they belong to someone else, not you.

Also, the skill of goal setting doesn’t just apply to us as adults; lead by example and give the gift of goal setting to those around you including your children.

Goal-setting starts with exploring mental attitudes, ‘value and belief’ systems as well as enthusiasm, commitment and motivation towards achievement. It’s more important to concentrate on what you want to:

BE

HAVE

DO

Then justify your goals – why is it important? i.e.

Will it make you a happier, healthier, better person?

Will this goal improve your career, or enhance your relationships?

Is it morally right to all concerned to achieve this goal?

By clarifying your personal values, your goals become naturally motivating.

Next, categorise your goals into short, medium and long term. Prioritise your goals in order of importance on a scale of 1 - 10. At the same time

Create solutions, not resolutions

by Dawn Campbell

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