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go to public or private school ? What sports activities do you anticipate you would be willing to allow your kids to participate in on a yearly basis ? Do you believe in corporal punishment ? What values are most important that you and I instill in our son / daughter ?
When a couple decides to have a child , it is generally the thing that will either bring them closer or farther apart . My belief as to why this happens is because of different values around how to raise a child which are influenced by the way we are raised as children . keep your connection close . While for others , they may look for that intimacy in other ways via quality time , frequent communication , activities with one another , etc . Discuss what you need and what works for the both of you to keep these needs met .
Life will always bring its distraction even in the best relationships . But two people who have ongoing discussions about their needs of one another and who put in the work to meet these needs even as they change will stay one step ahead .
You must be on the same page . Having similar core beliefs about how you want to raise your kids will make or break your relationship . Be open and ask lots of questions to make sure you two are thinking similarly .
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How often do you think we need to be intimate and how are we going to communicate it to another if our needs change ?
Physical chemistry matters in a relationship . And it ’ s only natural after marriage and being around someone more frequently that sex can become stagnant or routine . It ’ s why it ’ s important to figure out early on what your partner ’ s love languages are to keep the flame going .
Gary Chapman breaks down the five love languages here , which can help a couple have a loving relationship . But , the bottom line is that each of us has different things that trigger us to be more receptive , loving and tuned in to one another .
One more thing , some people like sex in more frequency than others and it ’ s critical to pay attention to this in your relationship . For some , being physical with their partner is a way to
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What are your partner ’ s spiritual beliefs and how would they want the family to be a part of this spirituality ?
Religion matters and depending on the religion , it can be a part of someone ’ s everyday life . Spirituality means different things to different people . For some , it means attending church regularly . While for others , it may mean more self-reflection and living their life in a particular way . Spiritual beliefs come in many forms , but understanding each other ’ s expectations , core beliefs , and how they exercise their spirituality will help you both get off to a good start .
8When you and I disagree , how would you handle it especially if things become heated ?
We touched on this a little bit earlier , but no matter how much you love your SO , you will have disagreements . You won ’ t agree on everything . And this will repeatedly happen throughout your relationship because you each hold your own beliefs .
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