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And when you put in
time with someone, it
is only a matter of time
before you see how
they handle life when
things are going well and
when things may not be
going as well. Watching
aggression levels and
seeing if they have a
healthy outlet for their
frustration will show
you definite signs of
someone’s personality.
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What is your
relationship
with your
family?
Your in-laws will become
an extension of your
relationship, and if you
are marrying someone
with kids, their kids will
become part of your
family too. Be sure you
are observant and well
aware of your SO’s
family dynamics.
Are they particularly
close to them? Do you
enjoy spending
time
with your SO’s family?
Are the family dynamics
favorable? Don’t go
into this one blindly.
Everyone has some level
of dysfunction in their
families, but observe,
and determine if their
family is one that is a fit
for you.
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But, the key is to ask
yourself are you ok with
their hobby, business
endeavor, or activity to
the point that you don’t
feel it would impact your
relationship negatively?
If you aren’t good with
something that is uber
important to your SO, it
will be a rub in a not so
good way.
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This
question
is three-
fold. What
is your
partner
passionate
about, how do
they pursue that
passion, and is
it something you
can support in
the long-term?
What values
are most
important
to you if
we decide
to have and raise
our kids?
First of all, you both
need to have a serious
conversation to
determine if you want to
have kids. If you aren’t
both on the same page
on this one, it can wreak
havoc later on in the
relationship. Don’t go
into your relationship
thinking that your
partner will change his/
her mind about having
kids if they have told you
this is something they do
not want to do. Even in
instances where this may
change, or one person
decides to have kids
when the other person
didn’t can be a source of
contention.
Each person will have
different passions in a
relationship. And this
is a good thing. Being
with someone who is
passionate about their
interests helps to add
another layer to your
relationship.
If you pass that hurdle
and decide you do want
to have kids, discuss
how you want to
raise your kids. Do
you want to live in the
city or the suburbs? Do
you want your kids to
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