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Elder Care Guilt: Making Peace with Your Decisions The decision to move your aging parent into an assisted living facility is never an easy choice. “W hen I first asked my mother to move, her answer was a definite ‘No!’” Lynn D. remembers. “To her, leaving her home meant abandoning her life, including the memory of her time with my father. Even though I believe the change was absolutely for the best, I couldn’t force her to leave that memory. After all, it’s been 15 years since my father died, and I still miss him every day. How could I do that to her? “Plus, my mother’s mind is starting to fail her. Would moving her into a new situation mean that she would lose all reminders of my father? Was being this cruel a risk I was willing to take? I even wrestled with whether I had my mother’s best interest in mind sometimes. I experienced constant confu ͥt)5-%9Q!M9%=H I %M%=8)1幸ٕՅ䁵ѡȁɔͥѼɕєȁѡ)ѕȁЁЁѡх+q5䁵ѡȁɽȁt1幸ɕ̸qM݅)ͥѥȁݡ͡Ёձȁ)Ց䰁ȁхɝЁѡչѥݡ+a!今da5ѡȇd$ͅɵ丁MՍѕt)1幸啱ȁȁѼѽɕѥȁɔѡ)ɕ胊q)Ёѽ5ѡȸ9܇tMȁѡˊéЁݥѡ)չх͡͡ձЁ+qЁѡ́гt́ͅ1幸q䁕ѥ́ЁչɅ5)ѡȁɕѕͥѼȁɅѥ́ݥѠȁͥՅѥ)͹̰ȁձɅ丁Uѥѕ䰁́䁵ѡˊé)$ѼݸѡչЁȁȁݡȁݽɱɹ)ͥݸ%Ё́ɽ'e͕ѼЁѡЁٕȁѕ̻t)1幻éѡȁ́ɽݥи Ё1幸Ѽ)ɕ锁ѡЁȁѡȁѼٕͼ͡ɕٔѕ)ɔ5٥ɽ9܁eɬѼ5ȁѡȁݥ܁ٔ)ȁɕٔձѥɽͥѠɔ1幸)ѡЁɕѥȁѡȁɽȁ啅́́ѡɥЁѡ)ѼЁЁͻeЁ٥єȁ́ɕ͔) =A%9]%Q I=1IYIM0)ٕ䁅Ёȁɕϊdɕ́ɽٽ)ɕ́م]ɔѕЁѡȁɕ͕)ձɅ䁅́ݕ́ѡȁɕՍͥѥ̸])́ɕɔՑѡɽɥȁȁɱ)ɕ̰ݡȁݕɔɕѱ䁽ȁɕ̸ٕQ́፡)ɽ́Ё䁥ѕͥ́ȁɕϊd́͹́)ͼȁݸͥեи)5ɩɥ\́ѡЁեЁٕ䁑丁͕ɽəѥ)ݡ́ЁչЁѥȁɅ̰ѡUٕͥ䁽)]͡ѽɕ͕ɍȁٕȁɥ͕͔)ݡɥȁȁѡȸQ䰁5ɩɥ́ѕȁȁѡȁ)ѡѕȁх́́ɥ̸͡+qݥѠ䁵ѡˊéѥݡͼե)ٕ䁙ȁݡ$t5ɩɥɕ̸q5䁵ѡȁ݅)ٕ͡ݽݡɽ͔ѕȁ٥ȁݥѠ) ѥՕЁ)A٥ɕ܁̹