IMAGINE Magazine Autumn 2015 Volume 1 Number 1 - Page 10

Five things you can do right now to increase your chances of staying healthy 1 Get control over your thoughts Unfortunately, many of us obsess over how someone hurt us or worse yet, we literally beat ourselves up when we’ve done something we feel guilt or shame over. When these unhealthy thoughts are repeated over and over again, they become our beliefs. In other words, they become WHO we are rather than what we think. As we become our thoughts, they become ingrained in our physicality. Thoughts can be as acidic as the foods we eat. Remember that a thought is just a thought; it is not necessarily the truth. 2 Become more flexible with your thoughts People who are inflexible in their thoughts have more trouble forgiving than their more flexible counterparts. This right/wrong way of thinking keeps you playing the blame game. And as long as you are pointing your finger at someone else and feeling a righteous sense of indignation, you can’t forgive. This is because you believe that forgiveness is inherently connected to the person who hurt you. This is a false belief. Forgiveness has everything to do with YOU. It is a gift to yourself, to feel more peace in your life. 10 IMAGINE l Autumn 2015 3 Let go of stress on a regular basis The good news is that we know that there are ways to deal with stress, and research supports these lifestyle changes, such as meditation, yoga, aerobic exercise, being out in nature, getting regular massages, increasing your sexual activity, smiling more, having a regular gratitude practice, praying, counseling, participating in a spiritual group, and working with a coach to live a happier, more passion-filled life. One of my favorite stress relievers is to laugh with girlfriends. Many people wait until one of the 3 D’s hits them: Death of a loved one, Disease, or Divorce. Prevention is way better than waiting for one of the three D’s to be your WAKE-UP call. 4 Let go of past grudges If the past is following you into your future, you need to let it go. There is no research that says anyone benefits from living in the past, or holding onto grudges. Likewise, beating yourself up for something you did in the past is a waste of time. If there is something you did, apologize, make amends the best you can, and let yourself off the hook. If someone did something to hurt you, remember that you holding onto the hurt, anger, bitterness is hurting you, not them. As Marianne Williamson tells us: “The past is over. It doesn’t matter who we are, where we came from, what Mommy said, what Daddy did, what mistakes were made, what diseases we have or how depressed we feel. The future can be reprogrammed at this moment.” I know, sometimes it feels like