Huffington Magazine Issue 18 | Page 91

YOU HAD ME @ LOL Best of all, because Coster and Basile both use Twitter for work, neither of them had to go anywhere, fill out anything, carve out time to exchange flirty messages, or pay a cent to meet. Not only do singles benefit from the convenience of searching for love through social networks, but they’re spared the emotional baggage associated with taking the plunge to join an OKCupid or Chemistry.com for a lovelife intervention. Some old-school dating sites are actually trying to ape social media’s accidental success in the field. Basile’s old haunt reflects the sea change in online dating with “ONLINE DATING TO ME IS NOT ONLINE DATING ANYMORE. IT’S SOCIAL DATING AND IT’S A SOCIAL EXPERIENCE.” HUFFINGTON 10.14.12 a design that borrows more from Twitter than eHarmony: Nerve. com has reinvented Nerve Dating to take a cue from the Foursquares and Facebooks of the world and has supplemented the traditional checklists, algorithms and profiles with brief user status updates a la Facebook meant to serve as icebreakers. “Social media sites do a better job of approximating the natural human experience than dating sites in their old form,” says Nerve chief executive Sean Mills. “Social media had a huge influence on us in figuring out that the idea of sharing actively would work in a space designed for meeting new people.” For their part, it’s unlikely social media sites will do much to encourage matchmaking on their sites. “It’s going to start to offend other people…You do get typecast into a certain category — Pinterest is for women, this one’s for that, this one is for casual sex — and I don’t know that you can be all things to everyone on any single social networking site,” says Spira, the online dating expert. But that doesn’t matter. There are plenty of places to find love online.