How to Coach Yourself and Others Grief Coaching and Counseling | Page 9

The goal here is to let your body remember what it knew how to do when you came into this
world. And for some, training/conditioning/shaming, etc. has been so intense, that "to become as
a little child" will not be an easy thing. Be persistent.

STEP THREE - Shifting.
Evaluating the process, adjusting to the change, taking in loving light in the
place of what has just been moved out. Re-thinking, re-evaluating your
perceptions. If enough emotion has moved, this phase happens automatically
and the change is lasting. Sometimes it feels like an Einsteinian A-HA!
What's happening here is that Mind is responding to emotion opening and
unfreezing, in the way it was originally meant to, and both mind and emotion
can then work together to see things in a new and creative way. Many
judgments that were frozen in place by underlying pain naturally dissolve
here.

"The
intuition is
always
correct.
There are no
limits to its
power even
ultimately to
attain the
greatest
heights of the
intellect via
the right
brain."

Noel Huntley
The Real
Reason Why
Women Have
Been
Oppressed

The goal of most psychotherapy has traditionally been to move the individual
as quickly as possible through their past pain and bring them to this last
phase. Belief in the power of the mind has been the cornerstone of traditional
therapy, power of the mind to overcome old wounds if we can only
remember them and bring them to consciousness. And the mind IS a truly
powerful thing. By using the mind solely some great awarenesses *can* be
reached. Memories can be brought to the surface, shifts in awareness can
happen. But (and this is a very BIG but...), forcing your way past the pain to
reach an "Ah-HA!" will mean you leave parts of yourself behind you. The
parts that have not finished crying their pain will not go with you to your new
state of "understanding", and to your mind, these parts will seem stubborn,
resistant, retarded, slow, stuck in old beliefs, etc. etc. You'll find yourself
saying, "I thought I learned that, I thought I already resolved that..."
You must allow all the feelings to cry themselves to completion, until they