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others, nor does it depend on the outer events or circumstances that occur in our life. Instead of a
conceptual understanding of our oneness with this Divine Source, we know it to be true at a cellular
level. We no longer feel isolated from the Source, which was experienced in Stage 10. We incorporate
this understanding into the deepest aspects of our being.
"It is right in the midst of life that we have to develop and express all that is beautiful and perfect
and divine in our souls." ~Pir-o-Murshid Hazrat Inayat Khan
Stage 12: COMMUNITY:
In Stage 12, we experience our
involvement with humanity and
recognize that wholeness comes from
bringing our individual gifts into
community. This occurs in our internal
and external communities. We receive
gifts from within ourselves and from
others. We recognize that all of our
choices are spiritual ones and affect all
beings. Eventually, we recognize that
our limits stem from our own lack of
wholeness.
In this Stage 12, our relationship to
everything becomes sacred, including
our wounds, we continue the ongoing
cycle of healing. Consequently, we
seek to re-experience the rhythm of stage one; however, this time we are accompanied with a greater
awareness from experiencing and healing through the first eleven stages.
"The modern quest for community is a quest for one’s personhood…. The essence of community is
wholeness…that meets my needs and those of the greater whole of which I am part. Community is a
deeper reality within which I move and have my being. It is one of the names of God. Community is
a gift of myself, what I give in endless participation with my world." ~David Spangler
Our primary community is that of our own bodymind. We are made of quadrillions of cells having a
unique task to accomplish and a gift to give. These cells are organized into tissues, and these tissues
are organized into organs and organ systems. When this vast internal community works in harmony,
we grow, heal and fulfill our tasks in life, with each part giving its gift and receiving gifts from the
rest. A freely flexible and responsive nervous system helps to maintain health and vitality within all
Life processes.