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pains, illusions, and concerns behind the suffering. At
this major stage of healing, we can appear on the other
side or our illusionary self. For many of us, the
alienated, isolated, abused, ignored, denied, or
redirected aspect may be one of "light", or "goodness",
or "pure child". Merging does not mean we have to
face our Beast, but rather, it means allowing us to
merge behind the consciousness, which was generated
by the creation of our separateness.
When we merge with our illusion, we feel a new sense
of personal empowerment on intellectual, spiritual, and
emotional levels. This strength comes from
discovering the truth about certain aspects of our being
that lie beyond the veil of illusion. Most of the time
this "knowledge" is not cognitive.
Merging may not be forced. It can only safely occur
when the bodymind is ready for it. Merging comes
about naturally, as interference in the spinal system
and the connective tissues of the body is removed.
Becoming consciously aware of what is behind the
illusions, which produced the suffering, does not occur
in the Stage 5 of healing. Here, we observe ourselves during our interaction with our pain and
suffering.
Stage 6, PREPARATION FOR RESOLUTION:
This stage of Healing represents a point of increasing
momentum and flexibility of the bodymind in
preparation for the discharge and resolution of trapped
perspectives, memories, information, energy, and
patterns. Here, there is awareness that the energy behind
the dissonant aspect of our life is about to be
relinquished. This may be the type of feeling or sensation
that we may feel, when we become nauseous, or before
we actually throw up. It may remind us of how we feel
just at the point of having a powerful sneeze, or at the
point when we are about to make a change in our
relationship.
Stage 6 involves more than preparation for the discharge
and resolution that takes place in the next stage, Stage 7,
Resolution. We may be able to resolve the dissonant or
alienated aspect in this stage, without having to
experience a forceful or violent discharge.
The essential rhythm in Stage 6 involves centering and grounding the bodymind’s energy, so it is
prepared in the event that discharge is necessary. This centering brings with it an awareness that
discharge is a welcome and appropriate event in the healing journey. Knowing that there is a buildup