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Stage 2: POLARITIES AND RHYTHMS:

This stage begins with the search for the magic genie, who can
or has been identified as the savior from our distress, pain, or
crisis. We project from the alienated, isolated, traumatized,
hurt, shamed, or ignored aspects of our being. These parts try
to gain power over our helplessness through external
authorities, procedures, treatments, etc. As we heal, we
eventually discover that what we blamed or projected as being
so wrong, is not so bad. Or we see that our genie is not
magical. We begin to become aware of our rhythms and
polarities and discover we are somehow involved in a process,
and are partially responsible for our distress.

Stage 3: STUCK IN A PERSPECTIVE:
This stage of healing involves the recognition that our distress is
associated with the fact that we have been stuck in a perspective. Our
concepts and/or our physiology have been fixated. We do not yet know
why we’ve been stuck, or what to about it. We just need to be with the
simple revelation that we’ve been stuck!

Stage 4: RECLAIMING OUR POWER:

This stage of healing is one in which we realize that the
"script" determined by the above three stages is not longer
desirable or no longer works. Initially, we are angry that we
had lost our power, and we are determine