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The 3 Steps to Healing
Awareness, Expression, Resolution
by Robert S. Vibert
I recently realized what was missing in many emotional healing techniques - a systematic and
comprehensive approach that would ensure that the three key aspects of the emotional healing process
would be properly handled.
Since early 2001, I have engaged in a dedicated and intense research project with a wide range of
emotional healing modalities. I have participated in numerous workshops and conferences on healing
approaches and modalities, read countless books and articles, watched dozens of training videos and
been trained and certified in a number of these modalities. I have discussed the process and
methodologies of healing with many experts in the field, and had the techniques applied to myself as
well as applied them to willing "clients".
Thanks to my other income streams, and unlike many people involved in this arena, I have not
approached it as a way to gain a living, and this has enabled me to easily abandon techniques that do
not work well in favour of those that do. I did not hang up a "shingle" as healer, mainly because I was
not satisfied with the results in both myself and others with most of these systems.
Drawing on my background in systems analysis, I watched for patterns and what underlying structures
existed in these techniques. While I do not consider the research project complete, a clear picture has
emerged concerning the emotional healing process and what steps are involved, in addition to how
well many methods achieve their stated healing goals.
There are many excellent methods and processes which help people uncover their emotional pain and
many that allow a good expression of that pain, but few properly addressed the final step - resolution
of that pain, so one can live free of it.
My research reveals that there are three steps one needs to take for healing to be complete.

Step One – Awareness

Before one can remedy something, we need to
know what it is that we are remedying. We need
to be aware of it, and this awareness needs to be at a
deep level, not just a surface-level idea of what is
there.
For example, if one feels fear arise around speaking in
a group, it is important to follow that fear and see if it
is linked to another emotion or feeling. Exploring that