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Mistake #7: Don't know what to say
In reality, the other six mistakes never come into play because most
men never talk to women in the first place. They have no idea what to
say.
Think about it. Knowing how to talk to women is the most powerful
skill you could ever learn if you want to flood your calendar with
dates. You can't just walk up to a woman and expect to kiss her, can
you? You need to learn how to talk to a woman before you can make
her your girlfriend or "no strings attached" partner.
So why is learning to talk to women so important? Because women
need to feel some connection before they decide to sleep with you.
And the only way to do this is by… saying the right things.
Solution -- Simply put, knowing how to talk with women is like
having a cupid's bow and arrow that you can freely "aim and fire" to
captivate any woman and make her hypnotically attracted to you…
anywhere, anytime.
In sum, you can't sidestep the flirting part, yet it is where most men make mistakes. The unfortunate circumstance is a
constant merry-go-round of rejections, or worse, could-have-hads-but-chickened-outs. Master the art of flirting and you
could see an increase in your dates with women.

See Flirting as an art
Flirting is an interesting art that's used to generate attraction and interest from the opposite
sex. It's the middleman between having a normal conversation and asking her out. Why do
you want to flirt with a girl? The best reason is so that she can become attracted to you
through conversation, and then you can ask her out. If you start off with a normal
conversation at the beginning, she might think that you're friend material. So if yous tart
flirting with her from the get go, she'll know that you mean business. Let's go on and learn
the art of flirting.

Tease Her
If you wanna learn how to flirt, then there's nothing more powerful then teasing. Remember
when you were a little boy at the playground and you teased the little girls on the
playground? That's exactly the concept you should have. When you tease her, it shows that
you're confident and have a sense of humour. It does wonderful things for generating
attraction. Some good examples

Back end Compliment Her
This is a flirting concept that I always do but I don't really see other guys use. You all know
what a compliment is. The problem with giving direct complements about her is that they're
very common especially if she's beautiful, and it makes you look kind of desperate. What
you can do instead is combine teasing and compliments for something I call backended
compliments.
"You know you look sexy in that dress, I think there's another girl somewhere wearing the
same one" "I like the way you laugh, your nose kinda wiggles when you do, it's cute"

Reverse Roles
We all know in the traditional sense that men want to get in bed with women. You should
reverse the roles a little bit for fun.
"You're just buying me alcohol to get me drunk and take advantage of me aren't you?" "slow
down, I know you want me but it's kinda too soon for me to go back to your place"
Flirting is an artful that you have to go out and EXPERIENCE to get better at. But trust me, you have to flirt with a girl
unless you want to end up in the friend zone.

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