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The Dating Game
Being single has never seemed more problematic. There
was once a time when you were seen as one of the lucky
ones, footloose and fancy-free, without the unpredictable
peaks and troughs of a relationship. Nowadays, it can
feel like you've failed as a person without a steady
partner - even worse if you're not out there, confidently
and regularly dating and having amazing sex every time.
The thing is, being single can still be fun - even if you are no good at
flirtatious body language, at chatting people up or at being scintillating
company on a date. Just think about it: in an arena where people are bound to be taking themselves incredibly seriously,
there's comedy to be had all around you.
So, consider how you could make being single fun again.
Smiling through the pain
If you're in a bar on a night
out, take a look around you.
The singles stand out a mile,
laughing slightly too loudly
to get themselves noticed
and striving to make their
presence felt to any available
matches around them.
Look at them again. See how
ridiculous and desperate they
appear. Their faces look
pretty grotesque, don't they?
Bask in the glory of knowing
you're not that much of an
attention-seeking idiot.
Laugh, I nearly cried
Welcome people chatting
you up as an opportunity to
hear some top drawer
comedy - for free. Chat-up
lines are usually
unintentionally hilarious, especially when you repeat them back in a really deadpan voice. Then try the line out loudly
on someone else nearby. It just gets funnier.
Full speed ahead
Go to a speed dating event. They're laugh a minute: tons of people, in a room, all desperate to talk about themselves at
high velocity in the hope that someone will like them. What could be funnier than the opportunities available here?
Make up a ridiculous comedy persona, say "no" to everything each person says to you or, even more rib-tickling,
actually listen to what they're saying to you.
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