How to Coach Yourself and Others Coaching With Meta Communication | Page 61

Anyone can learn to flirt, or brush up on their skills of seduction.
Leigh van den Berg guides us through the ABCs of flirting.
When it comes to the fine art of flirting, a
little bit of self-confidence, a friendly
smile and these simple tips and tricks will
transform even the most dateless disaster
into a red-hot Casanova faster than you
can say ‘hey baby, what’s your sign?’
(And you will also learn that saying
something like that is a very bad thing.)

Flirting from afar
You will be amazed what a single, wellaimed look can achieve when it comes to
scoring with the opposite sex. Making
eye contact is the first and easiest thing
you could ever do to show someone that
they have got your attention.
First, lock down on your target, be it
Craig from accounts or the stunner at the
end of the bar, by shooting them a coy,
fleeting glance. When your eyes meet,
hold their gaze for one sweet second
before looking down or away. This move
can be repeated as often as you feel is
necessary (bearing in mind that there is a
fine line between a ‘flirty flash’ and a
‘staring stalker’) to give your chosen
hottie the OK to approach you. However,
if they remain put, it is best to just write
them off as taken, very shy or simply not
interested.
Mandy, a self-confessed serial flirter,
suggests hunting in packs.
‘I like to walk through a crowd of
“potentials” while my friends sit back
and watch,’ she says. ‘Later they will tell
me which men gave me the eye or
checked me out, so I’ll know exactly
which guys to flirt with as the night
wears on.’

Up close and personal
If you, the ‘flirter’, happen to know your ‘flirtee’ (or they come over after you’ve given them a successful look) there
are many ways to let them know you’re keen, as well as to tell whether they are interested in you.
Simply practice or look out for the following subtle invitations and subconscious come-ons and you’re bound to get or
give the signal.

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