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comments on the weather. A touch of humour can make these openers even more effective. There is no need for
elaborate attempts at wit: a simple twist such as "Lovely day, isn't it?" during a torrential downpour will raise a smile if
your target finds you attractive. (If your target does not find you attractive, more elaborate efforts will be no more
effective.)
Once some degree of mutual attraction has been established, the use of humour in flirtatious conversations tends to
come naturally, as both parties are motivated to keep their target amused and interested. Our natural instinct is to try to
make the other person smile. We need constant reassurance that we are liked and appreciated by the object of our
attraction, and smiles and laughter provide that reassurance.
One particular form of humour, playful teasing, is particularly co