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Preening When a man is interested in a woman, he will want to look his best to increase his chances of impressing her. Watch and see if he tries to clean up a little right in front of you, as this is part of his male flirting signals. Touches his Shirt, Pants and Tie Watch and see if he tries to perform an impromptu ironing session on his clothes. Look for his hands to run along his shirt and jeans in an attempt to smooth out any wrinkles. If he is wearing a tie or a shirt with a collar, he will likely adjust those as well. Touches his Face or Hair A classic female flirting technique is when she touches her hair but men do it too. He might also touch his face, as a nervous gesture and to make sure it’s free of any unwanted items. Pulls up his Socks If you see him pull up his socks, it could mean he is very interested in you. What do socks have to do with attraction? It means he is paying attention to every last detail regarding his appearance. Other Male Flirting Techniques His flirting isn’t reserved to body language and fixing his appearance. Moves into Your Space Nothing gets your attention like someone moving in to stand or sit close to you. When he comes close, know that he has already established in his own mind that he is attracted. He now wants to get to know you more. Touches You Part of the reason for his moving in close is because he wants to touch you. At this point you may not notice everything he is doing because of his proximity. Watch for him making excuses to touch you on your shoulder, your hair, your arm or your hands. How to Read Female Flirting Signals It’s a girl’s non-verbal flirting signals that give a guy the green light to approach her. Guys, if you’re not sure, look for several of these signs of flirting. One alone means little or nothing – her lips felt dry; she has an itch or a stiff neck – but when the signs come together, she’s up for it! She’ll give good face. From a distance, you might get a direct look, prolonged eye contact, smiling – and it couldn’t be a great deal clearer than that. If she’s a little more shy, there’ll be short, repeated glances. Get on over! 49