How to Coach Yourself and Others Coaching With Meta Communication | Page 23

Distinct advantages for you are:
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Being a good listener:
Finding ways to compliment in a pleasing way
Confirming her in how and what she is
Giving positive, empatic feedback
Teasing her
Showing some sense of humour, making her smile

Here are some examples of good follow-up lines which will help you to keep the conversation
going.
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May I join you?
That’s a nice jacket you are wearing
That colour really suits you
You look lovely
I love the way you smile
You have beautiful hair
You have fantastic legs.
I love the way you dance / move
I’d like to buy you a drink
I hear you know a lot about this subject, are you studying ...?
How is it that you know so much about

Some qualify the following follow-up lines as bad :
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So, what do you do for work?
What’s your sign?
Excuse me, but I think you just dropped something (showing pen, …)
Do you believe in love at first sight, or should I walk by again?
Are you seeing somebody? / Are you married?

(too serious)
(cliché)
(boring)
(stupid)
(too serious)

At all times, though : what matters most is how she responds. If she says “thank you, sir”s and turns away,
then she’s definitely not interested. But if she thanks you, smiles and gets funny,