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was said that led you to a certain feeling? How did you respond at the time? What was the effect of
your response? You may want to write these down in a journal.
Ask yourself whether you want to continue with the relationship or not. It might be in your best interest
to terminate it, or else place specific boundaries around it (like
limiting our time with the other person). Some relationships cannot,
or should not, be terminated unless there is a pattern of abuse. This
is especially true of relationships with parents, siblings and
children.
Whenever a manipulation attempt occurs, point it out to the other
person immediately. This is your way of taking control of the
manipulation. There is no need to express anger when you give the
manipulator this feedback. Be assertive and calm. Take a few deep
breaths. The manipulator at this p