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Figure out which buttons the manipulator is pressing. For example, if you are a giving and caring
person, a manipulator might suggest that you are cold and selfish if you are start resisting the
manipulator's schemes.
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Stop making excuses for the manipulator. If you blame the manipulative behavior on his insecurities or
unhappy childhood, know that such excuses are a key part of his manipulative strategy. Be wary of
anyone who regularly "plays the victim."
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Turn down "generous" offers of help, money, time, etc. To a manipulator, these are always "quid pro
quo." Manipulators use "gifts" they give to get something out of you.
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Assert yourself. Say no to manipulative demands calmly and rationally.
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