How to Coach Yourself and Others Beware of Manipulation | Page 233

Don't be mean about it. You don't have to be like him/her to get away. Just say it's not a match and you
don't intend to continue the relationship. Period. Don't try pointing out all of the above warning signs.
This type of person won't recognize it himself/herself. It's like trying to teach a pig to sing - it wastes
your time and makes the pig bitter.
Controlling persons often check out of the relationship before you do; he may become detached and
apathetic toward you. But unless he is the one to end this relationship, even though it is obvious he is
interested in someone else, or at least looking with interest at others, he will freak out if you are the one
to leave, and spend hours berating you for your thoughtless abandonment. Just so you know.
If they seem to say one thin r