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Embarrass or make fun of you in front of your friends or family?
Put down your accomplishments or goals?
Make you feel like you are unable to make decisions?
Use intimidation or threats to gain
compliance?
Tell you that you are nothing without
them?
Treat you roughly - grab, push, pinch,
shove or hit you?
Call you several times a night or show up
to make sure you are where you said you
would be?
Use drugs or alcohol as an excuse for
saying hurtful things or abusing you?
Blame you for how they feel or act?
Pressure you sexually for things you aren’t
ready for?
Make you feel like there "is no way out" of the relationship?
Prevent you from doing things you want - like spending time with your friends or family?
Try to keep you from leaving after a fight or leave you somewhere after a fight to "teach you a
lesson"?

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Sometimes feel scared of how your partner will act?
Constantly make excuses to other people for your partner’s behavior?
Believe that you can help your partner change if only you changed something about yourself?
Try not to do anything that would cause conflict or make your partner angry?
Feel like no matter what you do, your partner is never happy with you?
Always do what your partner wants you to do instead of what you want?
Stay with your partner because you are afraid of what your partner would do if you broke up?

10 signs that you may be in an abusive relationship:
(Ruthie Hawkins - http://mommynoire.com/8561/are-you-in-an-abusive-relationship-learn-the-signs/)
1. Your partner tries to control you: You should feel free to do whatever you want with your life.
Abuse has many forms. If your partner is playing the role of a puppeteer, controlling your every move,
he is manipulating you. This is a clear sign of emotional abuse.
2. Your partner blames you for the misconduct: If you have to ask your friends and family if you’re
partners behavior is abusive, chances are, you are being abused!
3. Your partner uses excessive force to restrain or control you: At no point in a relationship is this
okay! No man or woman should ever intentionally raise their hand to strike or use force to restrain their
partner.
4. You make yourself available to your partner no matter what, despite the personal cost, just to avoid
confrontation.
5. When you do talk to your significant other, he puts you down and makes you feel stupid.
6. Your partner tries to isolate you, insisting that your time revolve around him, resulting in the loss of
relationships with friends and family.

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