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this by suggesting that the manipulators are blinded from insight into their hypocrisy by “denial” and
the tendency to “project” (both of which are purported to be unconscious defenses against emotional
pain). The reality is that the manipulator is not blind at all, but rather very aware. He also knows full
well what behaviors most people regard as wrong and shameful, and he wants others to tow the line.
The reason he doesn’t play by the same rules is because if he is a narcissistic character, he feels entitled
to do otherwise. And if he’s one of the aggressive characters, he simply fights to do as he pleases in
defiance of the wishes of society.

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