Personal Empowerment
A
ll too often women everywhere
struggle through life with damaged
emotions. They’ve endured a lot of
negative experiences, causing damage that
needs to be dealt with. They dress up, put on
make-up, trying to cover up the pain. In all
their efforts to make the pain go away, the
hurt is simply swept under the rug and buried.
Women are experts at building walls and stuffing things into dark corners, pretending they
never happened.
From many years of helping others
through this process, I’ve discovered that
although God wants to help those who really
want emotional healing, there are some very
important steps that individuals must take for
themselves. If you want to receive emotional
healing, one of the first steps you must take
is to accept current reality and stop living in
a state of denial. You can’t be set free while
living in denial. You can’t pretend that certain
negative things didn’t happen to you. Some
people are trapped in denial, afraid of what
might happen if they open the box that has
been closed for so long. You must look at the
things as they are. The current reality is not
letting your past become your present. The
current reality is seeing things as they are
today. You may have a tendency to distort
reality because you are not ready to deal with
the truth. If so, then you find yourself being
angry and hurt about the past and fearful and
anxious about the future. Your past has happened, you can’t change it and the future has
not yet happened. Focusing on today--the
current reality helps to relieve the pain and
hurt of the past and calms the fear and anxiety about the future.
The next step towards emotional healing is confessing your faults. You can verbalize
it, journal or write about it. There’s something about verbalizing it to another person
that does wonders for us—but use wisdom.
Choose someone you know you can trust. Be
sure that by sharing your story with someone
else, you don’t simply put your burden on that
individual’s shoulders. Also, don’t go on a digging expedition, trying to dig up old hurts and
offenses that have been buried and forgotten.
Journaling is another way to get thing out and
confess not only to others but confess and
acknowledge things to yourself as well. In your
journaling you would want to try not to sensor
your writing or monitor it. You just want to
Emotional Healing
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by Sheryl Mims Williams
20 HimPower May 2015