Hello Monaco Winter 2018–2019 HelloMonaco #05 Winter 2018–2019 - Page 25

Words Of Wisdom in Monaco Joël Bouzou with his wife Alexandra I think love is the feeling you have when you like so much someone that you don’t expect anything in return. You just want to be nice with the person, take care of the person. You just want to make the person happy. HM: Do you accept yourself unconditionally? JB: I think, yes. It does not block me from trying to become a better person if it’s possible, but I try my best, so yes, I would say. But you say you accept yourself «unconditionally» if you see in the eyes of the others that they accept you like that. If they accept you like that, maybe you are on the right track. define what it is, but it is both intellectual and physical and it is also about confidence, mind opening, about accepting the dif ferences and it does not block you from being willing to change the reality outside. I always think that there is a mountain — and there are many ways to climb a mountain. So, I have my way, others have other ways and they should be respec ted. And that ’s also where you get in harmony with the world. HM: Do you agree with the concept that if you don’t love yourself unconditionally, you cannot love anyone else? JB: Yes, it’s true. You need to love yourself to love others. But it’s good to be loved to love yourself also. So it’s a very complex situation. It’s about exchange. If you are not able to give, you will never receive. I think if you are open to give and get so much pleasure in doing that, then it’s easy to be loved. HM: What is love for you? JB: First, I think if we speak about love between two persons, if you can explain it, you’re wrong. Because I don’t think you can explain it. It is so deep, it is nearly something that is stronger than you and takes the power from you. And that’s the person you love. I think love is the feeling you have when you like so much someone that you don’t expect anything in return. You just want to be nice with the person, take care of the person. You just want to make the person happy. And it’s not about money, it’s not about material things, it’s about happiness. It is something you feel, but you cannot explain. I have this image of when I met my wife. The two of us were in colour and the world outside was in black and white. And that was the kind of evidence you cannot explain. HM: What are your criteria for being happy? JB: I would say that I am happy because I have purpose in my life. I do actions, which for me have sense and as soon as I reach the goal in these actions, that makes me happy. I am happy because sometimes I am able to transform the life of a kid who is 14 years old, in a third world country like Burundi. A 14-year-old kid is head of a family. He’s not going to school because only 10 % of the kids go to school. And that brings a lot of emotion to me, but if I’m able to change the life of this kid by my actions, then yes, that makes me happy. If I contribute to help resolving some conflict problems between communities through my actions, that makes me happy. Hello Monaco Winter 2018–2019 / 23