HEALTHY LIFESTYLE · OCTOBER 2018
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MAYBE THEY’RE JERKS.
I say that in all honesty! Jerks reject cool
people all the time. Look at the Oscars! Some
of the most talented musicians and filmmakers
have been snubbed countless times. “It’s a
Wonderful Life” was a flop at the box office. It’s only on TV
during the holidays because it was free to license. I look at
this as a blessing in disguise.
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The most important thing I can tell you about rejection is
to use it as a moment in time to focus inward and build
yourself. You have to have a love and faith in the value of
yourself and who you are that extends beyond what anyone
else says or thinks. If this were an award you didn’t get, care
enough about your craft that you continue to do it anyway
because popular opinion isn’t necessarily good. And at the
end of the day, all you ever have is yourself.
CHECK YOUR PERSPECTIVE.
When it comes to something you really wanted,
rejection feels like the end of all joy. This is what
being blindsided by pain does to you—it makes you
believe everything sucks and that it will be that way forever.
Don’t trust anything you think when you’re chemically
depressed! There will be a day not too far away that you
forget this pain ever existed. Know that it’s probably going
to suck for a while and your job is just to keep going
through the motions and practicing diligent self-care. Your
life will have great times and really crappy times and that
is part of what it means to be alive. Know that others are
feeling exactly as you are, right now, and if you’re suffering
right now, close your eyes and send them love. This isn’t
your definition. It’s just something that happened in the epic
that is your beautiful and varied life. For a bit of inspiration,
look to those in your family (or history) for the rejections
they overcame. Rejection happens to everyone worth
knowing and has throughout time.
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TIMING IS A MAJOR
PART OF LIFE.
Do you know the first person who opened a
supermarket in the UK? My grandfather, after he
visited the US and saw they were everywhere. But it
bombed because no one was ready for it. If you tried and
failed, it doesn’t mean that the next time won’t be just right.
Remember that the factors that influence your life are
infinite. Think of this as a series of decisions that created
a cause and effect, all of which lead you to this point right
now. The next time you step up to the plate in love or
career, it might be just right for the stars to align.
The most valuable asset you can foster is your best self.
That includes your voice, your beliefs, your gifts, and giving
them the best of your abilities. What someone else thinks
is their issue—not yours. When you act at your best, let
the rest go. There will be times in your life when you’ll be
the only person in the room who’s on your side—and I can
tell you first hand, it’s a profound reminder to stay true to
yourself. If you give your all, you have honored yourself, and
everything outside of that is out of your control. Recognize
that limit and accept it with peace.
Everything is temporary. The value of all things will shift.
The beliefs of those outside of you are theirs and n