HCBA Lawyer Magazine Vol. 28, No. 2 | Page 5

E D I T O R ’ S M E S S A G E E d C o m e y - L a w C l e r k t o U. S . B a n k r u p t c y Ju d g e M i c h a e l G. Wi l l i a m s o n All-American Kids A This is for those who never did come back All-American kids. while back, my wife an d I had dinner with friends. As I sat down with the other husbands in the group, we began talking about two topics I know something about: professional wrestling and 1980s baseball. As the evening wore on, however, the topic turned to something that I — both fortunately and unfortunately — didn’t know anything about. One of the husbands, a naval flight officer, mentioned some difficulty he had adjusting after returning from one of several tours of duty in Iraq. To me, it was a startling admission. Although my friend doesn’t strike me as some sort of macho man, he’s certainly a physically imposing guy. And he speaks matter-of-factly about things I can’t comprehend — flying through a war zone in a single-engine Cessna, to name one. The other husband, a mental health professional who has worked with veterans in the past, wasn’t the least bit surprised. What I learned from talking with my friends is that what is at once a great blessing to this nation is also a curse. We are blessed that our military is made up of the finest warriors the world has ever known. And I don’t mean “warrior” in the way athletes do when they casually throw around the term (“That guy was a warrior out there today!”). I mean it in the literal sense of the word. When most of us sense danger, we have two options: fight or flight (with flight, when available, usually the more attractive option). Those who serve our country in times of war, however, are seemingly programmed one way — to fight. Fight, mind you, for freedom for others without asking anything in return. These are people who instinctively run to danger the way most instinctively flee from it. But this superhuman quality can be a curse. The trauma that veterans experience during times of war is difficult to comprehend. My naval flight officer friend was asked daily to make decisions that literally determined © Can Stock Photo / aaronamat NOV - DEC 2017 | HCBA LAWYER whether someone was going to live or die. I can’t imagine the stress that must cause. Sadly, the same superhuman quality that causes our warriors to literally risk their life for others often prevents them from admitting the traumatic effects war has on them for fear they’ll be perceived as weak, not to mention the fear it might affect their military career. The result? Untold numbers of veterans return from combat suffering from posttraumatic stress disorder, often leading to substance abuse and other issues. In his song All-American Kid, Garth Brooks sings about a typical All-American football star from Small Town, USA who spurns college football offers from top schools to enlist in the military, serves three tours of duty, and returns a hero. Three tours of duty And a silver star Brought him back home with his battle scars He stepped off the plane In his combat boots He saluted the red, the white and blue And the whole town cheered And his mama cried Another hometown boy Made it home alive Got his picture in the paper and the headline read “Welcome Back All-American Kid” Yeah, this song is for those who never did Come back All-American kids I know those last two lines refer to young kids who have paid the ultimate sacrifice for our country — kids we read memorials about and honor on Memorial Day. But when I hear those lines now, I think about our veterans who have returned from war but will never be the same because of their (mental) battle scars. Veterans who often suffer in silence. This is for those who never did come back All-American kids. 3