Hawkesbury District Independent June 2017 #85 - Page 41

health & wellbeing Is low self-esteem impacting your relationship? by Sharon Chapman Within the framework of couples counselling, very often individual issues can be a contributing factor to the health of the relationship. One of the more common issues I see is a lack of self-esteem in one or both individuals and this can play a direct role in the relationship. Is self-esteem impacting your relationship? These are some of the signs to watch for. Not trusting a partner A belief that their partner will find someone better than them and so not trusting their partner. Often shown through being ‘clingy’ and asking a lot of questions to try and get constant reassurance or through groundless accusations. Judgemental of others Often people with low self- esteem can be judgemental of others. They have such a critical view of themselves, that they reflect this onto other people too. They may constantly point out the negatives about others. Anxious to please A fear that their partner will reject them if they aren’t perfect, and so become anxious to please them, often at their own expense. They rarely speak about their true feelings and thoughts in case it will cause a confrontation. Always hear the negative Partners of people with low self- esteem often feel that they have to weigh every word they say for fear of it being heard in a negative way. Often there was no negative intended but it is twisted and heard that way. Many people are confused by how an argument has started over seemingly nothing. Never good enough A belief that they are not good enough, they expect that everyone else must really think the same of them. This means they are constantly asking for reassurance from their partner. Sometimes this is done in a negative way, for example, “You are dressing up to look good for someone at work”, actually means, I am scared you are interested in someone else. They also reject compliments frequently. THE hawkesbury INDEPENDENT www.hdinews.com.au Beating the effects of jet lag by Jo Cotter Jet lag can be a drag on your body but your skin will really show the effects of plane travel. Increasing your water intake a week before you leave on your trip is a great way to prepare for flying, as the cabin air is very dehydrating. As the on-board air-conditioning recycles the inside air, it will also take moisture from your skin. So, hydrating with water before and whilst flying is key to helping your skin survive the harsh environment of a jet. Avoid alcohol, caffeine and salty snacks as these all contribute to dehydration. Try and get some sleep whilst on board the plane as this is when the skin restores and repairs itself. An eye mask especially with a spray of lavender oil can help you relax and sleep. Applying moisturiser to your face during the flight is another way to keep your skin plump and hydrated. Eye drops are also handy to help you feel refreshed. Ladies, a little touch up before your touch down always makes you feel better. As the plane starts to descend pop some concealer or BB cream on with a dash of blush and a splash of gloss and you will feel like a supermodel. Australia restricts the quantity of liquids, aerosols and gels you can take in your carry-on luggage for international flights. Having your favourite products confiscated by security is not the best way to start your journey, so be clever with downsizing your skin products that you may want to take on board. Regarding makeup, taking pressed powders for your foundation and blush will reduce your risk of carrying too many liquids in your hand luggage. Bon Voyage Beauty. ISSUE 85 // JUNE 2017 41