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After a year of dating, the issue of marriage arose when Katy put her foot down. “I told him, ‘I ain’t gonna be your forever girlfriend, you better fig- ure out what you wanna do,’” she says, laughing. Not long after, they took their second trip to Austin to see a concert, this time Willie Nelson. They’d rented a “park model” for the weekend, in a nice RV park and campground vacation area. Katy stepped out of the shower in a towel and found David with a serious look on his face. “He comes up to me and says, I just can’t imagine living my life without you in it. Will you please marry me?’ And I go, ‘Yes … but in a towel? Real- ly?’” Katy laughs. When they got home, Megan scolded David too, for the lack of pomp and circumstance – namely, a ring. But David and Katy had already decided that they wouldn’t get bogged down by formalities or expectations; this wasn’t their first rodeo. “Between us we had already had several elaborate weddings – I wanted 30 Greenville Life WINTER 2019 this to be about the marriage and not the wedding,” she explained. David and Katy married on June 9, 2007, next to a lake at Bonham State Park, surrounded by friends in casual summer attire as requested by the cou- ple; their camping chairs were arranged neatly with an aisle down the center leading to the water’s edge. Along the beach sat an arbor built by David and a friend and decorated by Megan with silk flowers from Hobby Lobby. The guests had been asked to wear the wedding’s “theme shoes”: Chuck Taylor high-tops, David’s favorite kicks. He wore his own crisp, white pair as he watched Katy walk down the aisle in her long wedding gown. “At the end of the ceremony after they pronounced us man and wife, I lifted up my dress and showed him my wedding Chuck Taylors, off-white to match my dress,” Katy said, grinning. The ceremony itself was also whimsical, fittingly highlighted by a pair of ducks crashing the wedding. “Two ducks wandered by between us and the water, quacking loudly try- ing to mate – a boy duck chasing girl duck. Everyone died laughing, the pas- tor cracked a joke, and really we just laughed our way through,” Katy said. Now, 14 years after their first date over steak, David and Katy are still find- ing ways to grow as individuals and as a couple. “A healthy relationship is constant work; it’s constantly showing apprecia- tion for one another,” Katy says. “You have to point out how they positively impact you on a daily basis and let them know how they are are pleasing you.” David, who admits he’s struggled with openly communicating feelings and thoughts in the past, said his wife has helped him know his worth and learn to enjoy a secure relationship. “It’s not a power struggle; we are co-equals, and that’s a big plus, if a couple can achieve that,” he explained. “Katy is ‘go go go’ and I’m more ‘woah woah woah,’ so we really balance each other out well. There is no perfect man and no perfect woman, but you can have a perfect mate.” D