gmhTODAY 06 gmhToday Jan Feb 2016 - Page 84

Shyness … for goodness sake

Every child has bashful moments from

time to time . Some kids , however , are naturally shy . Parents often wonder what to do about their child ’ s shyness . Should they let their children be shy or should they try to “ bring them out ”? The good news is there is absolutely nothing wrong with being shy . In fact , there are a lot of great things that come from shyness . Depending partly on how it ’ s handled , shyness can either be a help or a handicap to children .
The Virtues of Shyness
Many people who don ’ t understand shyness interpret it as a problem . They think that a shy
Fri , 16th- arrive child must suffer from a poor self-image or
Social retreating is a normal stage of development . As
Sat , Mom , Steph and K hang out for bday that they lack social skills . In truth , many Sun 18th- shy Oli , Maddox long and as K you go to are SFpatient and give your child plenty of children have a very solid sense of self Mon . They 19th- Oli and Maddox encouragement return to Gilroy and space , he ’ ll blossom once again . operate from a place of quiet confidence Tues and , 20th- Oli meets K in If SF an later older in day child suddenly becomes withdrawn or evening inner peace . While a shy child may not be the and quiet it might be a sign that something ’ s going
Wed 21 through Fri 23rd- Oli and K in most talkative among a group of his peers Napa, he on , either at school or at home . Gently broach is an attentive listener who exudes a welcome Fri , 23rd- we return to the gilroy subject from with napa your child . If there is something presence that makes his more extroverted Sat , 24th friends - family lunch troubling or early dinner him , having your unconditional support
Sun 25th - no plans feel comfortable . is the first step to fixing it .
Mon- K works in SF or from home
Children who are shy tend to be self-reliant Tues- we leave , in the morning thoughtful , and empathetic . They have such a strong sense of inner peace that they may be reluctant to immediately share that with strangers . Although they might be slow to warm up to people , once they do they are charming and nice to be around . They have a deep sense of caring and many valuable insights to share .
How Shy is Too Shy ?
Sometimes shyness may be a result of negative experiences and inner turmoil . In an effort to ward off attacks on a shaky self-image , these children will completely withdraw from social settings . They tend to avoid eye contact and have a lot of behavioral problems . Often , these children are operating from a place of anger and fear instead of peace and trust . If you look beyond the behavior , you ’ ll usually find that they have a lot to be angry about .
In order to hide a self that they don ’ t like , some children will use the “ shy ” label as a shield . They retreat into a protective shell and use their “ shy ” label as a reason why they are not developing social skills and exercising them . For these children , shyness is a handicap that reinforces their weak self-esteem . These children especially need parents they can trust , who discipline in a way that does not lead to internalized anger and self-dislike . It is important to get behind the eyes and into the mind of your child . Things might look very different from that perspective . The more you empathize with your child and help her feel good about herself , the more her self-esteem will grow .
Sudden Bouts of Shyness
Sometimes a child may become shy practically overnight and his parents are left wondering what they ’ ve done wrong . Typically , if this happens between the years of two and four there ’ s probably nothing to worry about . Children at this age tend to go through a second phase of stranger social anxiety and they become afraid of people they don ’ t know .
How to Help Your Child
While it is tempting to want to help the shy child , it ’ s important to let her approach situations at her own pace . A child can ’ t be pulled out of shyness , and often efforts to bring them out will cause them to recoil even further . Instead , create a comfortable environment that lets your child ’ s social personality develop naturally . One of the best things you can do is to avoid labeling your child as “ shy ”, especially in front of her . Your child may think the term means that there ’ s something wrong with her and this will make her feel even more shy . Instead , use nicer , more accurate terms to describe your child , like “ private ” or “ reserved ”.
Of course , the best thing you can do for your child is to give her lots of hugs and support . Although shy children may be slow to warm up to strangers and more cautious about social relationships , they are sensitive , deeply caring individuals with a lot of good things to give . The world will be a gentler place because of him or her .
Article Brought To You By :
Shyness … for goodness sake E very child has bashful moments from time to time. Some kids, however, are naturally shy. Parents often wonder what to do about their child’s shyness. Should they let their children be shy or should they try to “bring them out”? The good news is there is absolutely nothing wrong with being shy. In fact, there are a lot of great things that come from shyness. Depending partly on how it’s handled, shyness can either be a help or a handicap to children. self-dislike. It is important to get behind the eyes and into the mind of your child. Things might look very different from that perspective. The more you empathize with your child and help her feel good about herself, the more her self-esteem will grow. Sudden Bouts of Shyness Sometimes a child may become shy practically overnight and his parents are left wondering what they’ve done wrong. Typically, if this happens between the years of two and four there’s probably nothing to worry about. Children at this age tend to The Virtues of Shyness go through a second phase of stranger social anxiety Many people who don’t understand shyness and they become afraid of people they don’t know. interpret it as a problem. They think that a shy Fri, 16th- arrive Social retreating is a normal stage of development. As child must suffer from a poor self-image or Sat, Mom, Steph and K hang out for bday long that they lack social skills. In truth, many shy Sun 18th- Oli, Maddox and as K you go to are SF patient and give your child plenty of encouragement and space, he’ll blossom once again. Mon 19th- Oli and Maddox return to Gilroy children have a very solid sense of self. They Tues, and 20th- Oli meets K in If SF FW FFW 6B7VFFVǒ&V6W2vFG&vW&FRg&6RbVWB6fFV6P"WfVpBVWBB֖vB&R6vFB6WF~( 2vpW"V6RvR66B@&RFPvVB#F&Vvg&#7&BƒBVFW"B66"BRvVFǒ'&67BFƶFfRrw&Wb2VW'2P7V&V7@2GFVFfRƗ7FVW"vWVFW2vV6Pg&#7&BvR&WGW&FFPv&g&vFW"6BbFW&R26WFp6B#GFf֖ǒV6"V&ǒFW G&V&ƖpfrW"V6FF7W'@&W6V6RFBW22&RWG&fW'FV@g&VG07V#WF02FRf'7B7FWFfrBfVV6f'F&Rv&24b"g&P6G&Vv&R6FVBF&R6Vb&VƖBGVW2vRVfRFR&prFVW"6@FVvFgVBVFWF2FWfR7V6vRB2FVFrFvBFVFR66B7G&r6V6RbW"V6RFBFWN( 2'FBFWBW"&66GVF2BW &R&VV7FBFVFFVǒ6&RFBvFv6R6B6( B&RVVBWBb6W727G&vW'2FVvFW֖vB&R6rFv&ЦBgFVVff'G2F'&rFVWBv6W6RFVЧWFVR6RFWFFW&R6&֖pF&V6WfVgW'FW"7FVB7&VFR6f'F&PB6RF&R&VBFWfRFVW6V6PVf&VBFBWG2W"6N( 266W'6ƗGb6&rBfV&R6vG2F6&RFWfVGW&ǒRbFR&W7BFw2R6F2FfB&VƖrW"6B2( 6( W7V6ǒआr62F6g&BbW"W"6BFFRFW&V06WFW26W72&R&W7VBbVvFfPFBFW&^( 26WFrw&rvFW"BF2vWW&V6W2BW"GW&Vff'BFRW"fVVWfV&R67FVBW6R6W"&Pv&BfbGF6266Vb֖vRFW6P67W&FRFW&2FFW67&&RW"6BƖR( &fF^( Ц6G&Vv6WFVǒvFG&rg&66"( &W6W'fVN( 6WGFw2FWFVBFfBWR6F7B@b6W'6RFR&W7BFrR6Ff"W fRBb&Vf&&&V2gFVFW6P6B2FvfRW"G2bVw2B7W'B6G&V&RW&Frg&6RbvW FVv66G&V&R6rFv&ЦBfV"7FVBbV6RBG'W7BbRWF7G&vW'2B&R6WFW2&WB66&WBFR&Vf"^( W7VǒfBFBFW&VF62FW&R6V6FfRFVWǒ6&pfRBF&Rw'&WBখFfGV2vFBbvBFw2FvfRFP&FW"FFR6VbFBFWF( @v&Bv&RvVFW"6R&V6W6Rb"W"ƖR6R6G&VvW6RFR( 6( Ц&V26VBFW&WG&VBF&ЧFV7FfR6VBW6RFV"( 6( &V2'F6R'&Vv@&V6vFW&RBFWfVr66FR'62BWW&66rFVf"FW6R6G&V6W722F6FB&Vf&6W2FV"vV6VbW7FVVFW6R6G&VW7V6ǒVV@&VG2FW6G'W7BvF66ƖRvFBFW2BVBFFW&ƗVBvW"